What is Love? ...Don't Hurt Me, No More

Love. Such a simple word. Yet, at the very mention of love, someone may have instantly crept into your mind. Love is one of the strongest tools and most powerful motivators. It can cause people to do crazy things and take chances one wouldn’t normally take. As they say, “love is blind.” No, it isn’t physically blind, but in a matter of speaking, it causes us to see the world through rose-colored glasses; intentionally overlooking the undesirable aspects. A haze that covers ones entire being as your body goes numb and one’s heart and soul are set afire.

We all know the feeling of love, but what is love?

Pastor, theologian, and Christian apologist, Tim Keller said, “You don’t fall into love. You commit to it. Love is saying I will be there no matter what.” Love isn’t something you just stumble upon. If love so happens to find you, you must commit to it or there never was true love in the first place.

Growing up, everyone knows at least one person who seemed to go through a new relationship each week and every week they would claim to be in love all over again. Unlike this wavering “love,” True love does not come and go; It is not fleeting. Love may be a simple word but love itself is not simple. There is a complexity found in love. It’s not just a feeling, but it is a series of reactions and responses as well. Any fool can find love. Finding love has never been the issue. The issue is being love; we need to be love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (ESV) tells us, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.”

In this, we see one thing; Love is not easy. It requires work and constant effort. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages writes, “Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.” If you are truly planning to go about loving someone, you must not go into love with selfish desires. Love requires selflessness. The very selfless love that Jesus demonstrated on the Cross.

In all of history, we have had no greater example of love than God’s love for us; not even the tragic love of Romeo and Juliet can top it. If you model your love after God and the Bible, I promise you will find love to be more fierce, passionate, and true than ever before. God’s love can change the world. Let us love as He has loved us.

Bekah Mead